Any time I feel like I’m hitting brick walls of resistance, nothing is flowing, I’m edgy, and the magic has disappeared, at some point I come to the following realization – I’ve stopped doing what was working. It doesn’t happen all of a sudden, it’s usually a gradual shift for me. Whenever we experience a shift from things flowing, to hitting walls and feeling out of the flow, it would be my suggestion to go back to the basics.
For myself, the basics include things like making spiritual connection daily, finding time to exercise and walk outdoors, eating healthy foods, writing or journalling, connecting with people, meditation, Reiki, and creating time for my hobbies like artwork, music, jewelry making. It’s not that I have to do all of these things every day or even every week, but am I doing any of them? Or am I just getting up, hopping onto Facebook, checking my phone, showering, and heading off to work, and then coming home, checking my Facebook, eating dinner, watching T.V. and shuffling off to bed?
One of the most important parts of my day is making spiritual connection. What does that mean? For me, it means talking to the Universe in some way, whether it be in a journal, or by lighting a candle and having a conversation with my guides, with the Divine. This week I’ve rearranged my little “altar” with some new crystals, I light a candle, and I sit and meditate at least once a day in front of it. I’m not even asking for anything, or offering anything. Just getting silent and sitting with crystals and items that help me to feel spiritually full.
After a long winter, I notice that my soul yearns to get outside, and not just for a walk to work, but a walk that has no destination in mind, perhaps down by the river, or in Jackson Park. Any time I go out into Nature and connect by observing the animals, spending time with the trees, breathing in the fresh air, I feel full, and connected to my Universe.
When I make time to connect in Nature, to connect with the Universe in meditation or prayer, when I return to the basics, things return to being in the flow. Why? Because I’m more aware. I’m asking for daily guidance and receiving it. I’m paying attention to the synchronicities and heeding the advice given through them. I’m listening better to the people in my daily life. There is more awareness to my thought process, and I can turn off the constant chatter and listen to my intuition. I get out of the driver’s seat, I hand the keys back to the Divine, and the ride is soooo much smoother as I take a passenger seat on the Bus of Life. Ahhhh… back in the flow.
So, if our life is feeling out of balance, and the magic that we were experiencing is currently not there… let’s ask our self, “What was I doing when it was in the flow, that I am not doing now?” And let’s do that!
It’s so easy to get caught up in our busy schedules, finding time for our jobs, for our families, for our friends. In that agenda we carry around, whether it be paper form or on our phone, where is our “me time” prioritized? Somewhere on that agenda does it say “Hot bath with candles and some Snatam Kaur playing”? Yoga or the gym might make it onto the agenda, but rarely does the “down time” make it on there. I know my agenda needs a LOT more hot baths scheduled in, not to mention a few “curling up on the couch and reading a favourite book”‘s , thrown in, with a “doing absolutely nothing” on top, for good measure. With all of the demands of life, how do we fix this?
By doing exactly what I just suggested in the first paragraph – put it in our agenda, and honour it just as we would honour a doctor’s appointment, or a client coming in, or taking our child to soccer practice. Don’t scratch it out when something “more important” comes up – leave it in, because it IS important. When we exhaust our self or stretch the self to the limit by not taking enough down time, we don’t have 100% to give to anyone else either. In fact, we might only be giving everyone 50%, because 100% went out the window last week.
I’m writing this blog today, because I need to hear what it is I’m writing to you. Like many people, it’s so much easier for me to see what you need to do to be healthy and honour yourself, and it is so difficult for me to apply this to myself. You reading this… I know you, and you are exactly like me! You can advise everyone else to take some time out, but you find it really hard to do it yourself. So let’s you and I make a deal today, I’ll tell you, that it would be great if you took some time out, and started scheduling some hot bath time in on your agenda, and I will listen when you tell me I need some hot bath time on my agenda.
And what’s the result of you and I listening to each other, and taking a bit more time out? Our creative juices get flowing again, we feel inspired, we feel passionate about our work and hobbies, we have 110% to give to our friends, family and co-workers, and we honour our self. Because if we don’t honour her, who will?
The women’s movement has made huge strides during my lifetime. No, we’re not where we need to be, but it’s getting closer – at least here in North America. I count myself blessed every day to live where I do. As women or men, if we are looking to help improve the lives of women, the majority of the work needs to be done off of this continent, to bring education to 100% of girls around the world; to put an end to sex trafficking; to bring wage equality world wide; to help end domestic violence world wide; to bring family planning education and options to every woman on the globe. But what can we do right here at home, in Canada?
We can start, by speaking up about things that happen every day here in Canada. If we are out in public, or get sent a forwarded email, or we’re on Facebook and we see one of those images that is meant to suggest that this woman shouldn’t have left her house is THAT outfit – instead of adding a “LOL”, or ignoring it, maybe stop and ask ourselves what ramifications that choice has. Are we trying to make ourselves feel better, by making someone else feel worse? Are we suggesting that as a woman we can’t go out of the house wearing whatever the heck we choose? I was at a Women’s Networking event, not all that long ago, and during the presentation portion of the event, women started making fun of women who go to the grocery store early in the morning in their slippers and pajamas. What if she’s a mother, and her child is sick, and she’s doing her damned best to help her family? What if she’s just too damn tired today to give a crap what we think? As a woman, I want to stand up for a woman’s right to do WHATEVER she wants – not just be an astronaut, an engineer, or a doctor – I want to stand up for her right to wear her pajamas to the grocery store at noon! I was embarrassed to be in the room when that pajama-slamming portion of the evening started, and I haven’t been back to one of their events because of it. Women who slam other women, are not what I want to be part of.
The same goes of course for “body shaming” – not participating in words and actions that suggest anyone should be ashamed of their body size or build. The same goes for “slut shaming” – not participating in words and actions that suggest a woman is responsible for violent acts against her based on her sexual choices or clothing choices. Sexual liberation means exactly that – we have been liberated to make our own choices.
If WE want to be empowered, WE have to empower each other. We should be raising other women up every opportunity we get! We should be encouraging our sister-friends for their accomplishments, for their inner beauty, for their tears, and for their ability to be authentic. It takes a lot of courage to be authentic in today’s world, and allow others to see us vulnerably, as we really are. And if who that woman is, is crazy-assed different than everyone else, not giggling and pointing, or saying something later behind their back, but being able to walk right up to them and say, THANK YOU FOR HAVING THE COURAGE TO BE YOU! YOU’RE BEAUTIFUL! “Crazy-assed different” should be the BEST compliment we could ever give a woman, or a man for that matter!
So please, take time to ponder this International Women’s Day, about how all of us, can empower ALL OF US, not just some of us.
This Spring Equinox 2015, on March 20th, we are going to be swimming in extra awesome, powerful energy! The Equinox in and of itself is very powerful and shifting energy. It is a time for planting new ideas, getting ready to grow what it is we dreamed up during the winter, and preparing our mental, spiritual and emotional garden for the coming year. The Equinox is a time of great change.
Add to that the energy of the New Moon. New Moons are a time of new ideas, new dreams, new projects. Time to usher in change.
Add to that the energy of a Super Moon – meaning that the Moon is at its closest point to the Earth in its rotation, making its pull on us especially charged and strong. Super Moons make new beginnings and change even more momentous, dramatic and climactic. The Divine Feminine is linked with the Moon, so expect raised emotions, a bit more drama than usual and lots of tears and laughter. The male half of our population may find themselves frustrated during this period, not understanding why the heightened emotions.
Now we add to this, the Solar Eclipse! During this time our personal development and spiritual path, takes a new turn in the wheel, bringing a completion of the old, and puts new projects on our path. All eclipses usher in change, big change. It is a time for making new commitments, planting new ideas, starting new projects, taking the next step in our spiritual development, speeding things up.
So without even adding the astrological aspects to the upcoming Equinox, we can see that BIG CHANGE is coming and being ushered in this Spring. The Equinox brings change, the New Moon brings change, the Solar Eclipse brings change! It’s time to start meditating now to prepare for that change. What seeds do we want to plant as the Spring Time Sun comes back to us? Be aware of the heightened emotions. Be aware that old lessons are coming to a close. Be aware that new lessons are waiting on the dark side of the Moon. We may not see the change coming, until it’s right on our doorstep. Meditation will help us with acceptance and calm.
We will be drumming the night of the Spring Equinox, Super New Moon Solar Eclipse. Energies will be high! Intentions will be powerful when combined with the drums! The Divine Feminine will sit front and center at this circle. Start considering now, what it is that you want to toss into the circle. My advice at this time, is to get silent in the next few weeks. Listen to your own heartbeat. Listen to the rhythm of you. When the circle is formed, or you find yourself standing outside under the Moon, your Soul will know what the next beat is… the next turning of the Wheel… the next spiral of development.